September 17, 1997

Medical Marriages: Promises and Problems-Reply

Author Affiliations

Wake Forest University
Sotile Psychological Associates Winston-Salem, NC

JAMA. 1997;278(11):900. doi:10.1001/jama.1997.03550110038031

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In Reply.  —It is ironic that we received the Kellys' response to our article on the same day that we witnessed the demise of yet another young medical marriage. This couple's story was painfully familiar. Filled with positive intentions and expectations, they married during his third year of medical school. All went reasonably well for the first 2 years, but her resentment of his prolonged absences during his clinical years of training increased. Residency brought the hope of a more "normal" family life. But 3 years, 1 child, and too many missed family events later she proclaimed that the marriage had been a mistake. "I did not get married to spend my life alone. I don't care if you are a doctor. My question is what kind of husband and father will you be? The answer is 'not good enough.' I want a divorce."Our attempts to get this wife to reconsider