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On My Mind
September 2007

I’m Only Punching In

Arch Pediatr Adolesc Med. 2007;161(9):827. doi:10.1001/archpedi.161.9.827

In 2005, I went into labor at 23 weeks and 3 days. I presented with my cervix 4 cm dilated, contracting and bleeding with bulging membranes. I am a neonatologist and a PhD student in bioethics. My husband is also a neonatologist, the chief of the unit where I was admitted. We would have rather been 2 ophthalmologists buying glasses for their myopic kid.

Labor was delayed until our daughter Violette was born at 24 weeks and 5 days. I despised being told congratulations. Why exactly was I being congratulated, for my inability to keep her inside me 4 more months? I felt as if I had broken a glass in the cafeteria and people were applauding.